10 Ways to develop self-respect in your child


Did you know how important it is for your children to acquire good social skills in early childhood? Do you think about how much it will help them to go through life firmly, to be full of self-confidence when building relationships with their family as well as with people from their environment?

Have you ever wondered what social skills are?


Social skills are learned forms of behavior that are learned and practiced from the earliest childhood in the family, spontaneously, through imitation and method of trial and error.

Be sure that your child will change his or her social skills through interaction with peers, through his or her own growth and development, and through education.

I believe that a child is socially skilled if manages to satisfy his needs, rights and desires in the group without compromising the rights and needs of the other child.

When a child experiences the acceptance and love of other children, he/she is safe and relaxed, which will help him/her to use his/her full potential.

Can parents encourage the development of social skills?

Help your child feel like a helpful family member by letting him know how important his existence is to the family.

If your children have the experience of being part of a family, if they see themselves as loved ones and see how important they are to the family, the more successful they will be in contact with other children.

Develop self-respect in your child

Self-respect is closely linked to the love we have received as we grow up, the confidence we built for others, discipline, self-control, values adopted, and inner strength to resist the pressures.

Responsibility, persistence and reliability are character traits that make up self-respect that is intensively formed in a child between the ages of 5 and 12. During this period parents can strongly influence their development, because the child’s absorbing mind in this period remembers much more than we think.

Social skills useful for developing self-respect in children:



  1. Expressing confidence


  • Listen to what your child is saying to you, so show him/her that his/her needs and feelings are important to you.
  • Your child’s confidence will grow, but don’t promise what you are unable to realize.


  1. Risk taking


  • Risk produces fear, accept children’s fears (encourage him to talk about them)
  • Talk to your child what is afraid of, what was afraid of and no longer afraid and what has helped him,
  • Encourage your child to try something new, talk about whether there is something your child wants to try and is afraid of.


  1. Helping others and seeking help for yourself


  • Think about how your child helps the family, seek help from the child according to his or her abilities,
  • tell your child how you feel about helping others,
  • encourage your child to ask for help openly,
  • don’t help your child solve a problem or do something until he or she asks you to.


  1. Asking permission


  • Remember to ask for permission to take and use what belongs to your child (do not give your child’s toys to other children without his or her permission)


  1. Sharing with others


Develop a family atmosphere of co-operation, teach your child the importance of respecting someone else’s needs and caring for others, talk to your child about what he or she can easily share with others and what is a problem.

6. Thanksgiving and praise


  • Whenever you think a child has done something nice, tell him or her: “I like it”, “thank you, you’re very careful …” or show him a non-verbal, by applause, by hug. Be sure to praise his talents


7. Apologies


  • They see the apology as an appreciation and most often accept it,
  • Teach your child that after each “sorry” is followed by an offer of how to fix things, so we will teach the child to distinguish between accidental and deliberate actions


8. Willingness to follow and obey the rules


  • Think about the rules that exist in your family, involve the child in creating family rules. When a child breaks a rule, ask him to explain his behavior and make sure tt understand the consequences.


9. Responding to criticism, failure, accusations, teasing


  • Low self-respect is the basis of many conflicts.
  • Unless you are working to make the child perceive himself as important, it is difficult for him or her to take into consideration the opinions of others and their needs, which is the basis of frequent mockery, rejection, outburst of even aggressive behavior.
  • If your child is aware of his or her values, if he or she feels safe and loved he/she will not enter into conflicts, he/she will deal with failure and accusations without violence.

10. And don’t forget! Give your child a lots of love


  • What you mean is that the child may not be at all clear, especially as clearly as you might think, so it is important that you show the child that you love him.
  • Give your child incredible love and thus build his self-esteem.

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